8 February 2012, 9:47 am
so dont bother answering with a complaint of how long it is. i wanted and found a friend with benifits in sept. im 25 hes 31. this is what hes done or what he does: (i NEVER got clingy or contacted him first) from the very first night we hooked up HE wanted to stay and cuddle AND keep in touch.when he does cuddle he holds me ALL night and into the day. he IMd me everyday AFTER we hooked up. he asked me to go to a concert. says he likes me/feels safe with me, he compliments my eyes smile and perfume and etc.holds my hand. i spent the night at his place and when i was leaving he asked if i wanted to stay for dinner and some tv instead. BUT in oct. he just abruptly stoped speaking for a week then he said we shoudlnt speak anymore and we didnt go to the concert.he later revealed he thought iwanted more. hes basically hot and cold. i IMd him in Dec. because i missed him and we met b4 I left town. but in jan he wanted to go cold again when i came back. i was feeling down and asked him to hang out and he said i was difficult the last time we met so i said i would have liked you as a friend then insulted me and said i was a baby for asking him that...oddly enough HE invited me to a bar??later we had a weird argument that night because he wanted more sexual stuff and i refused and he got cold so i stormed off/cried and he came after me to apologize/hold me...then later we were still weird about that and i kind of kicked him out of my car then cried and went after him and he said i didn't have to cry and he held me as i said sorry ,and he spent the night with me.HE Im'd me 3xs after that day to chat. days later i IMd him to hang out but he didnt say yes or no but we were on good terms. then i layed low for weeks and we didnt talk and he didnt contact me at all either. i saw he was online so i Imd him and we spoke for hrs but then b4 he left i felt compled to tell him how i feel for whatever reason.we spoke for hrs about random stuff i mentioned that i bought him a small gift for his bday on feb 5th but he didnt mention meeting up sometime to receive the gift then he changed the topic to more sexual stuff (not cyber sex lol ) then he said when he was getting ready to go i felt overwhelmed to tell him how i feel. ''look idk how to explain this and i know we met as FWB but i feel like ive developed some kind of feeling for you , i cant label it but i know i think of you or find myself missing you? and i cant help how i feel. im not feeling attached because im a woman and cant handle FWB.'' he simply said ''you know i dont feel the same way but thanks for being honest...do you feel better now?, i have to leave'' i said ''no i feel awful/sad... did you ever like me as a person? would you ever want to meet again?'' but he then said ''sorry ...i feel bad.but i hope you feel better ..i have to go now..i dont think of who i like i just want fun...yes youre cool,we are friends right? and yes we will meet one of these days....we will meet and i need to get my present : P '' based on what his done and said what do you make of him? and can i reverse this or fix it? when i eventually see him again what can i say or do to make him feel differntly? i took the advice of others and said how i felt knowing fulol well he wouldnt care..but idk why i did it...he doesnt lie but he changes his mind.. and YES im working on moving on and maybe i wont see him again , but ill still miss him. please just dont tell me to not care or forget or tell me to get someone else..i know i should but..its not easy for me to find another... Read More »
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